“When you really love and respect a man, and you want him to take you seriously and love and respect you back? Give him lots of patience … not lots of pussy.”
-Me
HOW TO LOVE
Men aren’t as vocal as we are about their pains, fears and past situations, so (most of them) they walk around with their guards up, they act out, and they show out in ways that pushes us away sometimes. But if we take the time to really get to know the man first, there are little clues that will let you know that deep down he really is a good dude, he just had a bad deal in the past and haven’t we all? We all have had a bad break, but we can’t let that hinder our future. Love Awaits!
Most of us claim to not have the patience to teach a man shit right? Isn’t that what we all say? But wouldn’t we want a man to be patient with us if we know that deep down we are really good women we just need someone to show us that he cares? How can we just expect him to understand what it is we have been through and just deal with it, when we don’t have the patience to do the same? There are alot of men that don’t know how to love because he has never been with a woman before. It’s possible that the females before you weren’t about shit so he has no idea how to love a woman of your calliber but he desperately wants to know how, or in the case of him not having his shit together, he never had a woman to motivate him to do better. Easy to say that he should motivate his damnself, but wouldn’t the love and support from a partner push you to go even harder as well? This man probably yearns to treat a woman like a Queen, and he is probably a King but he keeps running into peasants and hasn’t had the opportunity to flex his royalty. Then along comes you, impatient, intolerable but lonely, yet you ain’t tryna help a man do shit!You don’t want to hear shit!!!! And you don’t have time for shit!!!!! but you want someone to love you? Huh? Your King is right in your face in need of a slight upgrade and you’re too bitter, impatient and selfish to see it.
You want Mr. Right to come to you RIGHT, no flaws, no bullshit. But anything worth having is worth building on. You can’t build your dream home over night. It will collapse on your head! Today’s woman is too impatient and cocky. We do everything on our own, so we just don’t have the time for these men and their bullshit!!! Yeah we do everything on our own and we shouldn’t have to. A house is not a home unless there’s two of you living inside of it. You need to learn how to submit without giving away who you are. It’s called balance. And you have to learn that man, before you feel that he is worthy of your submission. And yes, with all the easy pussy floating around, it’s no wonder why these men don’t know how to love! We don’t even require much any more do we? Fuck me good, give me some doe, come through when you can, then bye. YET! we are complaining about the shortage of good men. Well let’s keep it a buck….. are you presenting yourself as a good woman? Are you setting standards for yourself?
Being impatient never got you anywhere did it? You can’t expect a man to build the house alone, then call your impatient ass when he’s done, so that you can just waltz right in and enjoy the fruits of his labor. No, that’s not how it goes; such is the laws of love. If he does it alone, without your help, then you won’t know where all the nuts, bolts and tools are to keep that house from falling apart. You didn’t help him build it, so you might as well sit on a shelf with the other fixtures, because he can do it without you if he wants to. You have no squatters’ rights, you don’t live in his heart, and you’re just a piece of furniture in his house of love. The key is to make him need you even if he doesn’t need you…
AND FELLAS…..
The same goes for you when it comes to women. Sure you may come across a sister who is all in her feelings for all of the bad deals she caught in the past. But that doesn’t make her a bad woman. Your patience could possibly heal this woman and show her that not all men are dogs. She just needs that one man to show her and make her a believer. But if everyone is impatient, and if everyone is turning their backs and if everyone is trying to meet the perfect person then no one is going to be genuinely happy. Relationships will continue to fall apart because there is no core, there is no foundation, there’s just a bunch of people trying to fill voids and paint pretty pictures with a mate that they really don’t feel solid with because they didn’t take the time to BUILD.
Helping your mate grow will in turn help you grow as well. If you’re indeed a woman then he will indeed evolve into a man by way of your patience, your love, your teachings and vice versa. Allow honest mistakes. Nourish your mate with sunshine every day. Some days the leaves may look like they aren’t growing, sometimes you may feel as if your wasting your time. Don’t give up. One day you will wake up and see this big beautiful plant with fruits hanging off of it that can feed you both, for life and that’s due to the fact that you took the time to nourish it.
You want a man to be loyal to you and faithful to you and the only way you will get that is if you are loyal and faithful to his heart. It takes patience. And when you find a man that is open to learning you so that he can earn you? That is a keeper. The life you give is the life you live. Love is not selfish. Love is partnership, companionship, friendship, trust, loyalty, forgiveness and patience. Cooking, cleaning, freaking, sucking, yeah all that shit is what it is. It’ll make a man happy but it won’t keep a man happy. When you really love and respect a man, and you want him to take you seriously and love and respect you back? Give him your patience not your pussy. The real way to a man’s heart is through your own. Show him how to love and he will always love you and take care of you. Fellas the same rules apply. You want a woman to be loyal and faithful to you then you have to make her feel and know that she is safe and protected at all times.
-Yaya
Facebook.com/AyanaEllis
ByAyanaEllis.com
The post How To Love Your Man the Right Way appeared first on Don Diva Magazine.