Okay Main Bitches, Wives, Wifeys, Baby Mommas… listen up this is for you. Stop sitting around talking about Side Bitches and how they ain’t shit, how they need to find their own man and about how ratchet they are. All that shit talking is not going stop your man from getting his dick sucked outside of your relationship. Do you know that 70% of relationships wouldn’t last without a side bitch? Men obviously love the side bitch because he has no ties, the pussy is probably crazy or she is younger then you. Whatever his reasons … the bitch exists and there is not too much you can do about it. Putting energy into hating on her is not the business.
I’m not here to glorify the Side Bitch, and while there really isn’t that much you can do to get rid of her, you should understand how she infiltrated your whole set. In a man’s eyes, shit with his main bitch just gets boring sometimes. He’s tired of talking about the kids, the bills, your mother and your friends. He just wants to hear something different or NOTHING at all. He may even think you’re plain corny- especially if your sex game is not poppin’. If you were poppin’, like really, really poppin your man would not have a side bitch (or he’d at least introduce you to her but that’s another story topic altogether.)
Understand, there is a difference between a shorty, jump-off or booty call and a Side Bitch. Those are the bitches your man fucks here and there from time to time. She may get the hammer in his car or a late night quickie and she may even be smashing a few of his boys. But the Side Bitch, she’s getting time and money…he may even love the bitch. Side Bitches (if she’s a real good one) often get more than the main bitch. Why? Because the main bitch is so hung up on that title alone she forgot how she got it in the first place and got lazy. Your dude knows that your content with “the title” and as long you have that, he knows you’re going to sit your ass down somewhere. Meanwhile, he’s treating the Side Bitch better than you; taking her to dinner, to the club, shopping and if he is real bold he may even slide in a vacation or two. Even if he only spends limited time with the Side Bitch, you better know its quality time. They don’t have any kids running screaming, they are not talking about bills, things that need repair or any other boring shit. Every minute they spend together is all about fucking! So you got the title but that bitch got everything else!!!! His time…his money… his dick, she’s hanging with his friends while your home looking dumb in the face, cleaning up and running after his brats.
Why is this? Because you forgot how to treat your man. Side Bitches make sure whenever he comes around they’re looking good, feeling good and they are always ready to please and it doesn’t have to be all about sex either. Side bitches always have some kind of plan to please the man when he comes through. But not main bitches! Side bitches don’t really beef, they appreciate the time spent with him. Not main bitches! All the time in the world ain’t enough time for a main bitch! Side Bitches do what they have to do to keep him coming back and they don’t say “No” to anything he asks. Not main bitches!
(Some) Main bitches think because of that title … they are entitled. And that is why your man has a Side Bitch.
So say what you want about her, curse the side bitch out and call her every name in the book for fucking your man but that side bitch done got you demoted from Wifey to Might Be. While you are riding the shit out of the title, she is riding the shit out of your man. The Side Bitch could give a fuck about a title. Truth is, she really don’t give a fuck about you either.
Okay, so now that you have become victim of the “Joseline Jux,” (We all know who Joseline from Love and Hip Hop Atlanta is.) What do you do? How can you deprogram him? Here’s the answer: You can’t! The only way to get him back is if this Side Bitch dies, because as long as she wants him she can have him. They are in a whole other relationship and the truth is YOU have become the Side Bitch. You are the annoyance in their lives with your constant whining. It’s so bad that your house is in disarray when the Side Bitch catches an attitude with him. She has him so stressed he’s home yelling at you.
YOU let the Side bitch in and YOU let her win. So there is nothing left for you to do but shut the fuck up, be great and deal with it or leave him.
Hell, in rare cases you have women that are happy “He” has a side chick for him to be play with when you don’t feel like being bothered. And ladies we all know we have days when we don’t feel like catching lock-jaw or flaring up our hemorrhoids…let that bitch do it! Enjoy the times he’s not around you, pretty sure you can find something to do to occupy the time 
-Yaya
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